What's coming next

Some of us are always waiting and wondering: what's coming next. We're waiting for the shoe to drop, waiting for the next great thing, waiting for our life to start. It's tempting - looking to the future for the answers, and yet the answers are right here. Right now.

The answer lies in being able to love what is right now- where we are right now and who we are right now. The answer is that when we learn to accept ourselves and be ourselves and enjoy ourselves just as we are, in this moment, then we can then move on from here. We get stuck in thinking we are not enough, we are too thin or too fat or too loud or too shy or too scared or too selfish. When we look at ourselves and we wonder when we will lose 10 lbs or when we will get that degree or when we will get that job or when we will get that love, when we ask when something will happen to us or for us- we are stuck.

It's when we look in the mirror and we acknowledge that we may not be perfect, but we are perfect just as we are. We may be overweight but we are substantial. We may be uneducated but we are kind. We may be single but we are a joyous friend. We may be childless but we have boundless love to give. We may be selfish but we are dependable. We may be far from perfect but we are capable and we are worthy and we are knowledgeable and we have survived.

Where we are right now is where we should be. It may not be easy but we will learn. It may be frustrating but it will be worth it. Losing 10 lbs is not the goal- the goal is learning to love who we are and what we have to give regardless of our size. Falling in love is not the goal- the goal is loving the entirety of ourselves despite our flaws. Having a child is not the goal- the goal is understanding how much love we have to give others and giving it freely. Being perfect is not the goal- the goal is to appreciate the beauty of imperfection.

This is the life.
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  1. The Power of Now. Again, good stuff.

  2. Tolle says the focus on now, and being liberated by the now, has both Buddhist and Christian origins. My guess is that the concept might be universal enough to have roots in many religions.


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