One Last Cry

I have a friend who's going through a hard time. She's recently divorced. She had her heart broken and her dreams broken and her spirit broken. She's trying to recover. She's trying to get back on her feet. She's trying to put the past behind her and move on and it's taking longer than she thought and longer than she wants and she's frustrated. So here's my advice: give it one last cry.

Sit down and wallow. Curl up in a ball or stretch out and pound your fists. Really sink down into it, reach deep inside and let it all out. One last cry. Make it a good one. Make it count. Make it scream and shout and come from way deep down in your toes. Cry for the pain. Cry for what you lost. Cry for what you hoped and what will be no more. Cry for yourself and cry for your family. Cry for them all and then cry some more. And then, when you are finally finished. When you can cry no more. When you are completely exhausted. When you are spent and hollow and quiet, just think.

Try to think ahead and not look back. Try to give yourself this time to wonder and wait. Try to keep your thoughts and wits about you but let your mind wander and dream. You have no place to go. You have no where to be. It's just you and the silence. The pain is less. The tears are dry. The sobs are silent. You have given one last cry. And now is the time for you to decide "what next?"

It doesn't have to be monumental. It doesn't have to be poetic. It can just be an inkling in your mind of where you want to go. So you can sit for a while. And you can plan for a while. And you don't have to do anything more. Except be silent. And be peaceful. And feel empty but hopeful. Because clearing out the sadness and tears leaves room for hope, leaves room for wishes, leaves room for you, and all that you have waiting in front of you.

This is the life.


  1. That was good advice to your friend, Allison. Giving it one last cry and then moving on. We have to let go after awhile. Living in the past is nothing but destructive. We must live in the"NOW" with an eye toward the future. So be there for your friend, offering her the shoulder to cry on. Then, onward and upward! Take care. Susan

  2. So true. Nothing like a big, cleansing outpouring of tears, sadness, anger, etc.

  3. Allison,
    These are words to live by, no matter what the loss is. Weep, let go, move on.


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