Forgetting the world

There's a song that keeps following me around. No matter where I go or what I'm doing, this song starts to play and captures my ear. The song is "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol and the lyric that gets me every time is this: "If I lay here, if I just lay here, would you lie with me and just forget the world?" I love this lyric. I think it captures what I think a relationship should be, could be. Not forced. Not strenuous. Just to be. With someone. Not doing anything. Just reveling in the two-ness of you, the near-ness of you, the being of you and the being of me. In all of my searching that's what it comes down to, just being.

It's harder than it looks. Because being with someone means being all of you just as you are in that moment, the good and the bad and the wrong and the right all wrapped up together. Because just being means not trying, and not having to try. Just being means accepting the person next to you and not asking them to do anything or say anything except sit with you and be there. Quietly but steadfastly. Actively participating in the stillness.

Asking someone to just be with you is frightening. It means being open and being vulnerable. It means asking someone not to judge you. It means promising in return to look upon that other person with soft eyes, with a soft soul, with a soft breath. It means offering to open your heart just a little to let them in and in doing so, to let yourself into theirs a little too.

It doesn't have to be fraught with emotion and that's the real beauty of accepting someone else. There is nothing to articulate or describe, there is nothing to analyze or appreciate outwardly, there is just a shared stillness and that stillness creates its own meaning.

After all, this is the life.


  1. "soft eyes, soft soul, soft breath" Allison, this is a beautiful poem.

    In my life I have been with folks who talk incessantly and say nothing, and others who speak directly to me with a mere glance and silence. Your 'soul mate' is waiting for you. When I finally quit searching, gave up completely, he came to me. Did I ever resist, but finally gave in. My best to you.


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