Here's the thing: sometimes when you're dating and you're over the age of 35 and you're a woman, you don't want to do all the work in your relationship. You do all the work at your work, you do all the work at your home, you do all the work in your real every day life, and so when you're dating, you don't want to do all the work; rather, you want someone to fight for you.
Not "fight for you" as in "stalk you" or "harass you" or "have to threaten a restraining order", but "fight for you" as in call or text to say he's thinking about you or that he wants to make a plan or make a reservation or make an effort to let you know that he wants to be with you, and as soon as possible. I have heard it said by men that women are complicated, but really, I don't think that's true. I think women want to be treated like every other person on the planet- kindly and with an appreciation for who they are. They want to know you are interested, they want to know you want to get to know them, they want to know you want to spend time with them. They want you to have a life of your own but they want to be included sometimes. They want to be wanted.
And really isn't that what everyone wants: to want to be wanted? Don't we all want to feel like someone is thinking about us? Don't we all want to be a part of something delightful? Don't we all want someone to make an effort and take some time and make some room for us in their lives? Don't we all just want to be with someone who thinks being with us is better than being without us, who wants to try to make something work with us, who wants to try to fight for us and all we have to give and all we can be, and see just where we may wind up? The answer really is that we all want to be with someone who thinks of us, and wants to be- together.
After all, this is the life.
-a
Not "fight for you" as in "stalk you" or "harass you" or "have to threaten a restraining order", but "fight for you" as in call or text to say he's thinking about you or that he wants to make a plan or make a reservation or make an effort to let you know that he wants to be with you, and as soon as possible. I have heard it said by men that women are complicated, but really, I don't think that's true. I think women want to be treated like every other person on the planet- kindly and with an appreciation for who they are. They want to know you are interested, they want to know you want to get to know them, they want to know you want to spend time with them. They want you to have a life of your own but they want to be included sometimes. They want to be wanted.
And really isn't that what everyone wants: to want to be wanted? Don't we all want to feel like someone is thinking about us? Don't we all want to be a part of something delightful? Don't we all want someone to make an effort and take some time and make some room for us in their lives? Don't we all just want to be with someone who thinks being with us is better than being without us, who wants to try to make something work with us, who wants to try to fight for us and all we have to give and all we can be, and see just where we may wind up? The answer really is that we all want to be with someone who thinks of us, and wants to be- together.
After all, this is the life.
-a
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