Making a list

I think when you get to a certain age, you think you know what you want in a partner and you make a list. Whether it be income or fitness, a full head of hair or no children, a close family or a house, we all have things that we include... and yet, it may be that putting aside that list is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Because instead of making a list or judging someone for what they don't have, maybe you should take stock of what they do. Do they make you laugh, are they hardworking, and do they plan for the future? Do they make you feel comfortable and also feel adored? Do they fight fair and not hold a grudge? Do they listen and try to do better? Do they want what's best for you?

So in the end it may not be what's on your list, but what feeds your soul. It may be that you should look up from your list and see what's in front of you. It may be that your attempts to find what you think you want keep leading you exactly where you don't want to be. It may be that life is trying to show you what's best for you, even if you can't see it yet. It may be that in the end, when you put down your list, you find yourself happy, and feeling lucky to have found what you needed, rather than what you thought you were looking for.

Lesson learned.
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