In my life I have experienced truly dramatic moments. Many of us have. Many of us have gone through terrible experiences or exhilarating experiences; moments that make up our character, moments that change us forever, moments that stay with us, moments that are fleeting but meaningful, moments that we will cherish, moments we wish we could forget. Those are the times where drama exits, where we are forever changed. Those are the times that are life-altering that are soul-changing, that make us who we are, that take us either where we want to be or hope to never return.
And with the background of that drama, and with the pattern of our lives marred and marked with those times, it's the daily drama that is just exhausting. That's unnecessary. That deprives you of energy. That has you spinning your wheels for no good reason at all. That makes you both unhappy inside and off-putting outside.
So maybe we should take a minute in those moments when we have a tendency to overdo, and stop. Take a breath and take a break. Take a minute to put on glasses of perspective. Look at our life and look at our circumstances and decide, from a more objective stance, if this is a lifetime-dramatic moment. And if it's not, and if there is no reason for it to be, then put down your dramatic flair and take down your defensive stance. Be where you are but see it for what it is. Put it in the place it belongs in the fabric of your experience, in the background, in a minor role, in a bit part, in a blip or in parentheses. Don't make more drama where there is none. Be in the moment but see with clear eyes.
Lesson learned.
-a
And with the background of that drama, and with the pattern of our lives marred and marked with those times, it's the daily drama that is just exhausting. That's unnecessary. That deprives you of energy. That has you spinning your wheels for no good reason at all. That makes you both unhappy inside and off-putting outside.
So maybe we should take a minute in those moments when we have a tendency to overdo, and stop. Take a breath and take a break. Take a minute to put on glasses of perspective. Look at our life and look at our circumstances and decide, from a more objective stance, if this is a lifetime-dramatic moment. And if it's not, and if there is no reason for it to be, then put down your dramatic flair and take down your defensive stance. Be where you are but see it for what it is. Put it in the place it belongs in the fabric of your experience, in the background, in a minor role, in a bit part, in a blip or in parentheses. Don't make more drama where there is none. Be in the moment but see with clear eyes.
Lesson learned.
-a
Great post. Too many people make a chapter form a blip. They are the ones who retell it like this: "To make a long story short..."
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