Disappointment and surprise

It surprises me sometimes how disappointed I can get about predictable things people do. But really, if we think about it, the disappointment comes from hope. From hoping things will be better or people will be better or events will take place that change someone's outlook and behavior. But, unfortunately, though circumstances present themselves for people to step up and step out of their normal routine or practice, behavior does not change and disappointment sets in. So what to do with that feeling? What to do with that hope? All you really need to do is look around you.

Because disappointment is countered by those who are by your side, delightful and supportive. Looking at those who are next to you, who hold your hand or hold your heart, who tell you things about yourself that they see that you didn't even know were there, will build you up and help heal that broken heart. An aunt who tells you how she admires you and has told others as well, keeps your hope and your heart buoyant and light. A family who is together to celebrate and dance and laugh until you cry. A brother who makes you proud to be his sister.

All of these little moments and big events, all of this time and this emotion and this happiness, shed light to cast aside your disappointment, to breathe the wind back under your wings. So focus not on what others do that you wish they would not, but instead on what others do that surprises and delights, that fills you with love, that lifts your spirit. Those are the angels, those are the supporters, those are the ones for whom we should be, and are, so very grateful.

Lesson learned.
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  1. Every person, young and old needs someone to champion them with kind words and make them feel special. I have discovered a life lesson; I cannot want something for a friend or family member more than they want it for themselves, no matter how beneficial it would be.

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