There is a school of thought that everyone you meet in life is a teacher. They are there to teach you how to be better or stronger or more compassionate or listen better or speak up. People we meet, people who impact us, people who make us angry or sad or bring us joy or make us laugh, can teach us something, if we just take the time to stop, think, and consider what lesson there is to learn.
It's easy to think that those in our lives who bring us love are also our teachers, but sometimes it's those who are past loves who have the most to teach. Love that once was but is no longer, can teach us what we are looking for (or not) in a new partner but it can also teach us patterns we need to break or recreate ourselves.
It's the same with those who make us angry. But the anger we hold is usually a cover for sadness or heartbreak. Being angry is an easier emotion than admitting we miss someone or something. Acknowledging that we were hurt, that our trust was broken, that we feel misled, is easier to digest if we coat it in anger. But in order to learn the lesson of where that relationship broke down and how it broke down, we have to remove that angry shell.
So when I find myself feeling these feelings of loss or angst, I'm trying to remind myself to look for the lesson. And coming from that mindset, it's easier to look back on the past with compassion, and look to the future with hope.
Lesson learned.
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